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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We help support DHs ex wife and my brother.  My brother lives in rural America working a low paying job.  His work is good for the community but doesn't pay enough to live on.  The ex wife raised his children.  They made an agreement when their children were born that she would be a SAHM because it was important to both of them.  He kept his promise after the divorce and continued to provide her enough income to allow her to SAHM and raise the kids.  The youngest is now in college but the reality is that after 20 plus years out of the workforce, mid 50s, and a HS diploma, jobs that allow you to support yourself are not plentiful.  This was a decision that was made a long time ago.  I knew it going into our relationship before we started.  I have my family baggage and he has his.  It just a part of our family finances.[/quote]

There are a ton of jobs out there for hard working people. Yes, unskilled work will not pay a lot but she should be encouraged to work. With the youngest in college, what does she do all day? Your DH is a good guy but enough is enough. He doesn't need to cut her off completely, but she should take some responsibility for her financial well being. What would she do if something happened to your DH? [/quote]

I agree with PP, but at the same time, think it is very big of both you and DH to provide for his ex-wife.  DH is in a very demanding job and we agreed that I would be a SAHM, giving up a very well-paying career.  If we ever got a divorce, I highly doubt that he would be as generous as your DH is.[/quote]

Eh. There's more to this story. Her DH feels guilty over the divorce for some reason or other. He could have divorced her knowing she was mentally unstable or something, and feels an obligation to her. OP might have started out as the OW, and DH is trying to make it right. And/or her DH might still, on some level, be in love with his first wife. [/quote]

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