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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It looks like they have done nothing to deserve the negative attitude from you or your DH, so you need to change your outlook. It sounds like these grandkids are all they have. Have a little empathy.[/quote]

We are not exhibiting any "negative attitude." We are FEELING negatively, in private. I practice the empathy and I say yes to all or nearly all their requests.

I can't help the negative feelings, and I wish I could do something about the negative feelings, and that's what this post is about. [/quote]

Are you and your DH generally very critical people?  Maybe also introverted? Do you criticize your friends when you are alone? I think you need to get to the root of why are you having negative feelings. Do you have the need to compete with other people?  Are maybe your kids attached to grandparents, and you resent this and see it as some lack in yourself?  I am not trying to criticize you, just help get to the bottom of why are you feeling this way. I do understand that dealing with elderly can be demanding and requires a lot of patience.  Is that maybe the reason?[/quote]

Yes, we are critical, kinda intellectual, introverts. But I'm not competitive. I don't know what's at the bottom of it. I really HOPE it's something deeper than, I just don't like them. You know? I'd like to have something to actually resolve within myself. [/quote]

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