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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a very good friend, we've known each other since elementary school, went thru hs together, stayed in touch thru college and we are still best friends.
I'm married and have 2 kids. He's basically their uncle.

We are 35 years old.

I have known that he's gay since end of hs/beginning of college. Everyone knows he's gay although he is not over the top and does not show off relationships a ton. He is not hiding it, yet not flaunting it.

Recently he confided in my that he "doesn't want to be gay".  He said that he has always known that he's gay, but he has never wanted to be gay.
He said that he has always dreamed of having a typical family, a wife and kids. He told me that he wants to try dating women.

I was floored, I didn't know what to say. I suggested he talk to a therapist about this to maybe weed out why he's feeling this way

He's a masculine guy, you would never guess he's gay by his demeanor or actions.
I love him, he is like a brother and want to support him, but was speechless.

What else can I say to him?
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I think you have some underlying issues with his being gay, for starters.  Take an honest look at what you wrote, and think about it.  You are probably sending some mixed signals to him about how you feel, and what you think about "the gays".  I think he's trying to help the relationship between the two of you, and it may not have anything to do with his true sexuality.

So what would happen if he were more effeminate, and you could "guess" he's gay the minute you see him?  So what if he and is partner are affectionate and loving in public?  He CAN have a husband, 2.3 kids, volunteer in the classroom,  a house in the 'burbs, and a Volvo in the driveway.

Think about the message you are sending him, and take a good look at how you really feel about things.  I guarantee you are not as open as you think.[/quote]

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