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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP:  Wow....you have so much pain.  I am so sorry.  I also have an aweful mother.  I think the questions you need to ask yourself....are you able to emotionally keep your Mom out of your wedding?  Is she taking up space in your head when she's not around?  For me, that was the biggest struggle.  Will you regret not having her there?  Will she be nasty, judgmental and cold?
It's YOUR day.  Only you can decide.  Take your time.[/quote]

OP here- Thank you. I think that I will regret HAVING her there....not not having her there. I know she will be judgemental because that is who she is. She will judge how I look, my dress, our decorations, etc. She could PROBABLY keep it all in and not say anything on that day but you never know with her. The number one thing stressing me out about our wedding right now is having her there and her putting a damper on our day. I can't even think about the fact that I'd be expected to take "happy family" pictures with her and pretend I'm so happy to have her there and that she's so happy for me when we both know she doesn't care at all.[/quote]

15:05 here:  I would bet there is so much more to your relationship than there is time in a day.  You need to give up ever getting approval from her.  It's VERY hard.  After I had kids, my mother ignored me and them.  Her other grandchildren were front and center.  
Now my mom is old and lonley.  She made investments in some of her children and blew off others.  The ones she invested in her blew her off when she got older.  My mother made her bed and now she lies in it.
I would not invite her.
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