Reply to I don't want my mom at my wedding

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "I don't want my mom at my wedding"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

Include her or not, but just so you know, traditionally, the mother of the bride doesn't pay for weddings and people aren't supposed to say "Congratulations" to the bride.  Don't ask me where the second thing came from, it's just been around a long time.  I wouldn't fault her on those things.[/quote]

OP Here- I'm confused by your comments. Out of everyone I know that has gotten married, it's been the brides parents that have paid for it. My best friend is in the process of planning her June wedding right now and her family is covering the whole thing besides the rehersal which her fiances family is paying for. Is that not common?

Also, I wasn't expecting her to make a huge deal about our engagment but she never said a word about it. My dad was the first person I told and he was THRILLED and said how happy he was for us...same as all of the rest of my family. She just never said a thing about it or acknowledged it. But again, I never expected anything from her because this is the type of person she is towards me. [/quote]

OP, are you from a different culture? Because while sometimes parents will help pay for a wedding, it is not their responsibility. And if you DO accept their money, you cannot not have your mom there. That's not how it works. Either be an adult, and pay for your own wedding, and determine who will be there because you want them there, or continue being a child and having your parents do everything. But you don't get to exclude them when they are paying for it. You sound ridiculous, entitled, and spoiled as hell. I had a physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally abusive mother, and I know that because I don't want her at my wedding, I will pay for it myself. Even if it means not having the fairy tale wedding everyone dreams of, it'll be something that works for my budget, and I'll determine the guest list as a result. [/quote]

OP here- No, I'm not from a different culture and I can promise you I am not spoiled or entitled. I never once said that I expected them to pay or that I thought it was their responsiblity...all I said was that every single one of my friends who have gotten married, the brides parents paid for the whole wedding. My fiance and I did not ask my parents to pay for anything. We had every intention of paying for our wedding ourselves but my dad reached out to us shortly after we got engaged and told me that he would like to contribute $10k to the wedding. We expected to pay a lot extra but since we are having such a small/casual wedding, it's coming to around $10k all in. As I mentioned above, we told my dad that we'd rather pay for it and not have her there and he insisted that we must let him contribute what he wants.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics