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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First question: do you have kids? [/quote]

Grown kids yes[/quote]

Then I am going to say yes. The reason being is that there is nothing worse than cheating when you have children. He is morally deprived and self centered. He is probably still contacting her. [/quote]

I'm certain he is not contacting her - he is being completely transparent with me about his phone and time etc.  But you did answer my question - he wants to but won't because I am in the way.  I need to figure out if this is enough for me moving forward. [/quote]
As someone who was in a long term affair, and was very much "in love" with my AP, I can tell you that your DH probably feels a great deal of relief that it's over and you are on the road to forgiveness. Does he still think of her? Of course-- that's only natural. It will fade with time, though, and as time goes on, he will see more clearly everything she was NOT, and everything you ARE. There's a reason he chose to stick with you and your family. After going through the trauma of affair discovery, it's very unlikely he is still actively fantasizing about her. He's thinking about you and how to make things right. Don't torture yourself with what's in his head. He's here with you. Try to move forward. Hugs to you.[/quote]

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