Reply to My DD feels like a failure

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "My DD feels like a failure"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is the happiest person you could ever meet but last night broke down and said she feels like a failure as she doesn't have kids and isn't married. She also said she constantly feels inferior and ugly.  Her work life is not going well. One of the businesses she runs is not successful at the moment and her other job is also unstable (She says but I am not sure if it is just anxiety talking). She has been badly let down by friends,  struggled to deal with her brothers mental illness and it seems it has all got too much. She said she couldn't confide in me sooner as she wasn't sure how I would take it. She wants to get therapy but what can be done in the short term?[/quote]

Your DD sounds a lot like how I used to be. Everything was black and white - success or failure.

One thing that helped me was understanding the difference between happiness and satisfaction.

It seems as though your DD is not satisfied. She has goals that she hasn't accomplished yet and she is not satisfied with her progress - this is a good thing - to be driven and ambitious.

However, just because she isn't satisfied, doesn't mean she can't be happy. Be happy for the things that she DOES have and DOES do well, while she continues to work hard to obtain the things that she doesn't.

Life is a long journey - growth and goals are life long processes - she may never be satisfied - she may always be driven and ambitious - nothing wrong with that. However, she also needs to realize that this is a journey and that these things don't happen overnight. Therefore, once she can accept that this is a long journey, she can find ways to be happy along the way.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics