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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]TBH I was trying to impress the OP, so that she might take me seriously enough to consider a different point of view. But certainly unworthy of emulation is fair, in many ways.

All I'm saying is consider that it might be okay for your kid to struggle or fall short and that maybe you can be there for him without trying to fix the "problem." Sometimes it does more harm than good. [/quote]

In general, kids with untreated ADHD have much poorer outcomes educationally, professionally and emotionally than those who are treated with both medication (when indicated) and educational and behavioral supports. If you are the exception to that, you are truly fortunate. I'm not sure how old you are, but the kids with ADHD in my generation (including my siblings) did not have the advantage of awareness, diagnosis, medication, etc. and certainly suffered (and continue to suffer) the effects of it. Parents do the best they can to help their children have a level playing field and succeed to the best of their abilities. That IS showing love and support.

(Also, I second the recommendation for Stixrud.)[/quote]

Well sure, and obviously only a professional can appropriately diagnose the kid. But the OP mentioned that he gets good grade -  her fears about his academic success are all projections - and I was struck by how harsh her reaction to his failure to eat breakfast and make lunch was. I'm not opposed to medication or helping kids at all, but I also feel for a 13 year old whose mother is already so disappointed by him and who is determined to fix him. Mom has lots of supporters, the kid sounds to me like he might just be a normal slovenly teen who deserves to be loved for
who he is. I hear echos of the issues with both meds and self worth that plague my peer group and think he deserves supporters too. [/quote]

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