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[quote=Anonymous]Backstory - when we divorced we both agreed that the kids would be best served being raised full time by me with weekend visitation for him. The divorce was amicable in that I didn't pursue alimony, the house or any of his retirement and he wouldn't pursue custody. He has always come for his visitation, but never showed up to any school related events, not even kindergarten graduations, etc, never called between his weeks of visitation. Then he met a woman and suddenly decided he needed more time and should be involved in EVERYTHING.

Part of me thinks I should just let him play 'good dad' and let him pretend he has always tried to be involved, but the other part of me is furious and irritated that he and his girlfriend are showing up to children's class parties, parent teacher conferences, etc. I have been the one raising the kids as a single mother, while building a business that supports them when he bails on paying child support, I've been handling school and all of their activities, I've been maintaining their relationship with his family, etc. I should mention that ex and his gf took a 'break' for a few months and he immediately reverted to his old ways.

He is now threatening to pursue shared custody (his response to my refusal to give him the kids deductions and he's tired of 'paying for my life'...) and tells the kids I keep them from him, that I took them away from him, that he just misses them so much. They fall for it hook line and sinker, despite the fact that his gf is the one who takes them out for activities and shopping, feeds them, does their laundry, etc.

Would you just suck it up and encourage him to play good dad?[/quote]

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