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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if your mom is still alive -- can she confirm that these people actually are who they claim to be? If your bio father had a second family, would your mom even know for sure, for instance, that the half-brother is really your bio dad's son? Do you recall these grandparents well enough, after so long, that you're positive they're really your grandparents?

I usually prefer to assume the best of people and hate to be so skeptical but these days -- with SO much information available everywhere -- I would be wary of such a sudden and intense approach. This truly may be a case of someone who had no idea you existed and who is your real half-sibling and who is hungry to make up for lost time. I hope that's the case. But I just would be wary of the suddenness of this.

I think that if you're concerned, limit contact for now; don't reply to emails etc. immediately, say you're not ready to Skype at present, if they phone don't feel you must pick up; call back at your convenience or limit contact to email. And if you feel any gut feelings that something is off; or if you feel pressured by them to respond immediately all the time; or, most of all, if they start to ask you for anything (they press you to have them visit, or they ask you to pay for anything)--then see how they react to a "No" and their reaction gives you your answer.

I'm not saying cut them off. You might miss out on family who have had a genuine change of heart ( or who in brother's case might not have known about you). But proceed with caution.[/quote]

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