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[quote=Anonymous]My long time friend has found herself in the position of being the primary person "responsible" for her ex-step mother's declining mental health. ExSM was kind of awful, stingy, and generally unkind to DF growing up. Especially by comparison to how she treated her birth daughter. Birth daughter moved far away from home, and despite early on being showered with resources from her mother, and being extremely well off now, does next to nothing for her mother beyond holiday and birthday cards and occasional phone calls. DF in turn, lives locally and has been called upon over the years to take ExSM to chemo appointments, do grocery shopping/house cleaning/pet sitting (long after cancer remission). There is zero thanks offered, zero monetary help offered, (DF is fine, but not wealthy like her Step Sister is.) I could go on and on, but suffice to say it is a one way street. Over the years I have tried to be a sounding board for DF.

Lately, the ExSM's house has taken on hoarderish qualities. Rotting food on plates in the living room, cat excrement left on the couch, kind of thing. If DF cleans too much she gets accused of snooping. For the life of me I can not understand how DF has taken so much abuse and continues to be so kind to this woman. She is genuinely concerned about her mental decline, but doesn't have anyone else (family members) to enlist to help ExSM, she has tried to bring it up wok Step Sister (who has mostly cut off all contact with DF) but gets stonewalled. DF worries that if she were to put up full boundaries, something awful would happen to ExSM. How can I help? What other options are there?[/quote]

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