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[quote=Anonymous](For what it's worth, I do know that I had the correct email address and that they are checking it, because they replied to other school-related group things during the week I was waiting for a reply. So it's highly unlikely that they didn't receive the email.)

OP, the above is from the post. I think it's assuming the worst if you think they're brushing you off.

I find that increasingly, since there's so much junk e-mail, that people have stronger spam filters and if I e-mail someone "cold" an e-mail can end up sent straight to spam and isn't seen. Same happens with my own filter -- someone I don't already know sends something and the filter might not like that particular address and treats it as spam.

The fact that you saw their reply on "school-related group things" doesn't mean anything because surely they have all school e-mail addresses cleared to come through to their inbox, so those e-mails won't go to spam.

Please give them the benefit of the doubt here. Even if they did see your e-mail, you can't know what's going on with them. Maybe they're swamped, maybe they're shy, maybe they were just not sure how to reply since they haven't even met you. I guess others see that as rude but it may not be intentionally rude; they may be wondering why a parent whom they haven't met face to face is contacting them about a play date. They may even be figuring they'll meet you at this event you mention and will talk with you about it there though they did blow the date..... You can't know. But I hope you won't write them off, and maybe lose your child a potential friend, because of things that you can't even know right now -- spam filters, home circumstances, cultural differences, one parent thinking the other already replied to you when that didn't happen -- whatever.

Walk up at this event and be friendly--"I'm Billy's mom and Billy sure likes your son Jimmy. I wanted to introduce myself to you since the kids are friendly. Billy would like to have Jimmy over to play soon and of course I'd like you to come for coffee at the same time if you can...."  Did your invitation ask for Jimmy to be dropped off? I would be sure to ask for a parent to stay for the first play date because some parents don't do drop-off play dates the very first time with a family they don't know at all.

Your post sounds as if you have already decided this is offensive and rude and you're done with them before you've even met them. I hope you can realize they may have been wrong or lost the message this time and will give them and their "nice, sweet, considerate kid" another chance. Anyone can miss an e-mail, or have a hellish week at work, or be so busy carting kids around that "I need to reply to that e-mail" gets forgotten. It could happen to any of us, OP. A second chance costs you nothing.
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