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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I exceed and still excel at a number of things and am willing to try hard. My husband excels at work and is an all or nothing kind of guy.  I have 3 kids who dont naturally push themselves.  They gravitate to safe and easy.  Grades.  As and Bs.  Sports. Average.  Art. Good ability dont want to try. Music. Dont want to practice. Friends.  Never initiate. Participate when invited only. Talent &gt; effort in all cases.  I never see leadership or a im going to do or be &lt;great at x, win x&gt;. So there is no success stories. Just participation.  Pretty complacent about win or lose. Anger when i suggest they do better.  They compare yhemself to the worst kid in class, sport etc and use that to justify their medoicrity.  We spend a lot of $ on activities (3 eakid)

Problem. Am i a bad parent if i let this continue leave them be.  Or am i supposed to push them to some great level by being stricter? I feel like ive failed to give them a life skill. I see them having lifestyles way below their current one.

They have every opportunity  but just dont take advantage to make most out of it.  
Let them be?

I know some parents would continue to push. 
Whats best for the low motivation child?
I ? If pushing would long term change them or just continue to stress me out. 
Some tell me natural motivation is ab normal.  But when i read bios of any great success they always credit self motivation.

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The one kid I know like this is completely over-scheduled and over-controlled by his mother.   She lets him schedule an hour of downtime during the week, but then gets made if he doesn't use it for something productive like practicing piano.   Boredom is a great motivator.    Just putting it out there in case it's relevant....[/quote]

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