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[quote=Anonymous]OP, have you told him point-blank, coldly and not in the moment when he's slurping a milkshake,  that this issue has genuinely  turned you off sexually and you find the smell repellent, and that you feel disrespected and dismissed when he just laughs it off? If you've tried to tell him this seriously and he still blew it off, I would set up a time when no kids or anyone else is there and he does not have any excuse to run such as "I've got to leave for X in five minutes!" Then sit down and say you need his attention and a serious discussion. Don't say what it's about in advance. And tell him: He's turning you off physically with the smell; worse, he's turning you off by being dismissive and jokey and acting as if your senses and comfort are silly; and finally, HE may now be so used to the smell that he cannot really smell how bad it is, but his kid can -- and surely his coworkers and boss can too, so this may even mean he's getting known for it at work but no one has had the guts to tell him yet. Tell him that he owes it to his family to look after his health and to be sure he's at his best at work and it's time to treat this like the medical condition it is.
 
It sounds as if he immaturely fears having to give up foods he wants. Tell him he may not have to give up much in reality but he has to see a doctor (make the appointment and go with him so he can't come home and say "I'm fine and it's normal!"). Are you at the point where you'd threaten to make him sleep in another room because of the smell, or you'd sleep in another room? He might need that kind of ultimatum but I hope not.

If he's still resistant you might need to enlist someone like a friend of his who is willing to say, "it's not some funny farting thing, it stinks and the rest of us smell you. Not funny for an adult." Unfortunately some people just cannot or will not hear hard truths from their spouses but will hear them from a friend.[guardian][/quote]

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