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[quote=Anonymous]Just found out that a colleague of mine got a big promotion, which I was competitive for until about a year ago, when my one of my DCs started getting sick regularly (chronic illness) and I started missing a lot of work and not being as reliable (lots of doctor's appointments, lots of sick days with little notice).  I still get all my work done, and have good performance reviews, but supervisor makes jokes about my kids being healthy.

Both of us (me and my colleague) have a DH with a demanding career and long hours, both of us have young children (although I have 2 DCs and she only has 1), so it is not simply about having children vs. not having children or having a spouse with easy hours vs long hours.  My colleague definitely puts more into her work than I do (not raw hours, but is willing to travel several times per month and with little notice, needs fewer sick days for her child, pays for lots of extra childcare), so I am not complaining about her getting a promotion, but still feeling sad.

I am at peace with my daily decisions to put less in at work to be there more for my kids, but when I see others pulling ahead career-wise, I do feel some regret.  I put so much into my education and career before I had kids, and while I don't feel like my education was a waste (education is never a waste), it does feel like there was no point to working really hard for a few years to get ahead in my career, only  to mommy-track myself later.  
 
No questions, just venting and feeling sad.  [/quote]

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