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[quote=Anonymous]As someone who lost both parents at a relatively young age (30s), I sooooo understand how you feel. My family (and some friends) behaved atrociously when I lost my father and then my mother. There were months when I was so angry at the selfishness and cruelty that I could not even speak to them. It still makes me utterly furious when I think of it. Some things just can't be undone. However, I try to keep it in context of the many wonderful and good times we've had. But it's almost more shocking when people who are normally nice behave really badly, isn't it?

In addition, I'm the first person in my friendship circle to have lost both parents, so even the well-meaning friends can't really understand how it feels and sometimes say really tone deaf things. It can feel like a knife in the gut.

All I can say is that we, as a society, don't deal very well with death or grief. Many people just don't have the emotional tools to deal with their own response, let alone anyone else'. It sucks to be on the receiving end of the ineptness, but try and put it in context of the whole relationship. Forgive as much as you can, if only because it will help you heal. Time will also help. and feel free to ghost anyone who just can't be a positive influence right now. Just put those people in a time out. Resume the relationship when you are stronger.

And I'm very, very sorry for your loss.[/quote]

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