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[quote=Anonymous]Just sent our immediate family a text about our son's baptism. We are Irish Catholic and baptisms are a big deal plus our families live out of town. For DS #1, his baptism was a holiday weekend and over 40 family members attended. We invited the godparents to stay at our home along with SIL who had a 2 year old and six week old. Both our parents have the means to stay at hotels and we got a group rate at a hotel in our neighborhood with walking distance of the church, the metro and our home. We also have family including siblings that live in DC, MD and VA with much bigger homes. Last time ILs stayed with my uncle in DC and my parents stayed with my sister in NoVA.

Just got a text at midnight from my mom asking "our preferences" regarding their flights. They plan on coming Thursday and staying through Tuesday. Want to know if they should book a noon or 7 pm Tursday flight. Also asking if they should stay at a hotel or our house.

I'm finding this a really long time to stay with us and a pattern. It seems like my mom and dad can't stay for 2-3 days, it has to be 5 or more. It would be fine with me if they were a little more self sufficient. My mom and dad won't drive our cars. They Uner or taxi ever where including a short walk to the church. They also expect to be entertained and waited on hand and foot. With a 3 year old and an infant, it's too much. I had DS #2 in December. My parents came for Christmas since I couldn't travel. They were weird about staying at my house ad systems saying they wanted night life with my nether who also lives out of town. Fine with me. They don't like my "rigid schedule" of nap time for the three year old or a bedtime. Want to feed him crap and sugar.

On Christmas Eve they didn't go to church with DS and DH. My sister and her husband did. My mom claimed my brother in his 30s wanted to go to a "beautiful cathedral" and not the children's service. Then they conveniently invited themselves over after mass when I had made a sit down dinner and stayed until midnight. The next day they were supposed to come at 9 and we held off on presents and they didn't come until noon. The Friday they got here they went to my sisters. My BIL was sick with the norovirus but my dad stayed with him at their house expecting to be entertained and taken to a bar to watch sports and a sit down lunch as he didn't want to go shopping with my mom and sister or come to our house to see his hands in he hadn't met. Then my dad acted legally le it was crazy when he too became sick Christmas Day. My mom
Also got sick. They were sick and I'm 2 weeks post partum with a viulnersble newborn and toddler. The entire time they are sick they are camped out in the basement rather than their guest room and the one bathroom. My dad also stayed up each night talking politics with my DH until 1 am drinking copious amounts of alcohol as he was "on vacation".

Sorry for the long explanation. I really don't want to be rude but if I'm hosting a lot of people and have a party I have to cook for I really don't want my high maintenance parents staying here. They refuse to drive and expect DH or I to cart them around DC and the suburbs. Won't use our cars or rent a car. Won't walk places out of sheer laziness. Take forever to get ready in the morning because they take 1-2 hours to groom and get dressed and will be in I'mpractical clothes like cashmere sweaters and fancy jewelry.

I planned on not hosting anyone at our home as overnight guests except DH's friend and my friend who are godparents and staying Fruday night through Sunday evening.we will host a pizza dinner on Saturday but frankly I'm exhausted and can't do sightseeing and entertainment give days in a row with two kids under three and work on Monday. Plus we are having a party at our house after the baptism and I need to cook and decorate. My mom and dad think they are guests and dint so much as out their dishes or cups in the dishwasher.

To make it worst, I go back to work from maternity leave Monday. My mom and dad aren't retired and taking off work Monday and Tuesday. How do I politely get the point along that give day stays are too long?[/quote]

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