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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year. When I first met him, I had a few guy friends that had told me that they had feelings for me. I distanced myself from them because it made my boyfriend uncomfortable to talk to them. One in particular lives 3 hours away and I only ever heard from him once a month or so. One time when he came to town, he ended up being at a bar that my gf and I were at and I noticed him as I was leaving. I sat down at his table with him and a few of his friends, just catching up, I wasnt there long. I then received a text from my boyfriend that he was outside the bar watching me. It resulted in a huge fight. I have since deleted that friend from Facebook and any other social media, as well as from my cell phone.

A few months ago, I met a guy through my mutual gf. He works at the place she goes frequently to eat and drink. He is harmless. I met him a few times while being there with her. Once when I went in there, his coworker had told me that this guy had a crush on me. He is nobody I would ever date or want to be with, he is pretty much just a nice harmless man. He friend requested me on Facebook and at the time, I told my boyfriend that I wasnt going to accept the friend request. Fast forward to a few weeks later and about 5 huge fights with my boyfriend, I accepted this guys request.

My boyfriend feels like I have lied to him. He feels like I am trying to meet single men. I really dont have any interest in anyone else except my boyfriend, and I certainly would never be anymore than a friend to this guy even if I wasnt in a relationship. 
I told my boyfriend that what bothers me most is our constant arguments that we have, and yes, I originally told him that I wouldn't add this person, but given we have recently had a lot of arguments, I added him.

My boyfriend now wants to take time to think about if he can "handle being with me". Is he being jealous and insecure or am I doing something wrong? [/quote]

What are your other fights about? These constant fights could be more of an issue than if you friended someone on FB.

I don't think that it is ever a good idea to friend someone on FB because of a fight. It makes the man think that you are at least keeping your options open. I am guessing he is not a complete idiot, so he is aware and sensitive to the fact that you guys fight a lot, that the relationship is not exactly where you two want it to be, and then you add a man on FB that you said you wouldn't. It makes him think that you are either messing with him to make him jealous because you had some fights, or you are keeping your options open or looking for someone new since you are having fights. Either way, it was wrong.

However, he needs to be less insecure and jealous. There is nothing wrong with you having guy friends. They were there before your relationship, they will be there after your relationship, etc.

Now, the one thing I would wonder about, is why you told him that they liked you.[/quote]

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