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[quote=Anonymous]Our story: been married 4 years. 2 kids 4 and 2 years old. Our sex life was never awesome but it was fine, at the beginning we were having sex twice a week then once, almost always WE mornings or after a party , a bit drunk. After first child the drop was dramatic, once every 6 months, second child once a year, 2016 = zero. I confronted him before of course but he said he was just exhausted, without uninterrupted sleep he just didn't have any libido.. fine.. But he finally admitted yesterday: it was the same with his previous long term girlfriend, the sex more or less vanished.

he says he doesn't really miss it. He misses the connection the intimacy but not so much the sex itself. he says he will try to work on it now that the kids are sleeping better. But I have a hard time believing there is anything he can do :( (and no for the record I didn't gain 50 pounds, he is not gay, he is no cheating and we have no serious issues going on, it is really a low libido thing)

He also doesn't seem to understand how horrible it is for me. To realize at 35 years old that the man I love and who loves me is ready to be in a sexless marriage. I am in the angry phase right now, I feel like this is something he should have said before we got married. You would tell someone if you are infertile or have a chronic disease right? he has no clue I see it as exactly the same, a handicapped he hid from me and now wants me to deal with without making too much of a fuss...

We will go to the doc to double check that there is no medical issue, we will try sexual therapy, we will try what we can. But deep down, today at least, I just feel like the jig is up and nothing will be the same anymore.

anyone has any experience living with an asexual DH? how do you cope?[/quote]

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