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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So in three years two people have said something to your girlfriend about not liking you - that you know of - and you want to know if that's a red flag?

You did not need to write a novel. The issue of whether or not she feels like your behavior reflects on her is unclear and the only potential issue. She doesn't have to change someone's mind if they don't like you, that would be embarrassing. [/quote]

Honestly I would've appreciated her standing up for me even a little bit ("no he's not like that..." or something similar) and not just implicitly agreeing. Normally I wouldn't care but she started arguing with me because she said it was my fault that this guy didn't like me and I must have done something to cause that.[/quote]

Honestly, I think being nonresponsive when someone says something negative about someone else is a pretty common reaction. The childhood friend has known her much longer than you have, for example -- her opinion carries a lot of weight. Your need to be defended is really weird, though. In the first case, you definitely sound like you gave good reason to leave a poor impression. And, based on your posting here, I can easily see how someone might find you arrogant.

Let it go, dude. Not everyone has to like you. Demanding she defend your virtue is a little weird. And controlling.[/quote]

I think you might be misunderstanding my post, in both instances it was an issue for my GF and not for me. What I would say in that situation when she's arguing with me? "Sorry Johnny Appleseed doesn't like me, neither of us knows what I did to leave a bad impression but I'll take fault for it"?[/quote]

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