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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I fostered an early elementary aged child in my mid-40s and eventually adopted him.  It was hard in the beginning in terms of the adjustment.  He had many placements before us and lacked a lot of "family" skills and experience because everything was transient.  So, it felt like we had to teach him everything and that we were instructing him on things that by age 7 we think should be natural.  A big part of our success was setting routines that we did not deviate from without a prior discussion.  Either the night before or the morning, we would write every single thing on a dry erase board so he knew what to expect - really reduced the anxiety and behavior issues.  It took years before he believed he was really staying even after the adoption, which was sad to watch because it must have felt so scary to him.

My son is now getting ready to graduate from high school and I have no doubt he is going to be a successful and productive adult.

People are right - he came with baggage.  But we worked through it.  I feel really lucky that we have been able to be part of his life.  [/quote]

Beautiful story![/quote]

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