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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Its marriage people. Its never perfect and you are supposed to love, support and care for those you marry who are going through any kind of illness or loss. Not cut and run. Scumbags.[/quote]

16:12 here. ITA. I held on as long as I could. Probably longer than I should have. I supported, cared for, and loved my ex. I did everything I could to keep our family together. My ex was the one who cut and run. And abandoned his kids (and me). So yes, scumbags exist.[/quote]

+2. I held on for two decades despite his emotional problems, ADD, awful judgment about money, and passive aggression. One day he decided that massively changing his life would fix his emotional state, but that didn't involve me or helping to pay for the oldest kid's college or giving me child support for the youngest. He does take lots of vacations and dines out with his dates. So can you find the scumbag here?

I was in my early 50s--still am, and we're near the end of the legal process. It is better. The divorce process is awful, as others have said, in fact it's an emotional roller coaster about money, legal costs, and the sleazy things he tries to do to me legally and in other ways.

But now I have so much more control over my life and finances and I can provide more stability for the kids. I don't have to deal with his moods, his tens of thousands in mysterious credit card debt, his extreme messiness, and the anxiety of never knowing what stunt or awful decision he's going to make next. Also on the plus side, as a single mom with two kids I was able to get significant financial aid for the oldest who is in college. Meanwhile I am enjoying my time to myself, reading novels, cooking, taking art classes, and more. I will probably start to date again after the divorce is final, but I'm in no rush.[/quote]

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