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[quote=Anonymous]Not sure if this belongs in the relationship forum or religious forum, but here we go -

Husband & I are different religions and our agreement is that we celebrate major holidays together as a family but each spouse is responsible for fulfilling his/her religious obligations, ie - DH is Christian so if he wants the kids baptized, it's his job to make that happen. So, Christmas is a Christian holiday, DH would like our observation to be a religious, rather than materialistic, one and I'm trying to be supportive - but, I'm also finding that some gender norms are prevailing here, in that DH has no experience taking the lead on family holiday observance. I'm becoming resentful that we're two days out from show time and he has yet to decide what that "religious" observance looks like or what role I can play to be supportive. To get practical, now is the perfect time to go grocery shopping - but he has yet to greenlight the menu and he has some specific ideas about what should be included, so I could make an executive decision and then hear him complain about it later.

So, given his lack of initiative on his holiday, should I just put on a show by myself, promoting a holiday I don't particularly believe in, and that he'll ultimately complain about because it's not how he envisioned it? If I do, it's for the kids' benefit. Or do I kick back, relax, and watch him sulk on Christmas day when he doesn't get the family celebration he hoped for? The former sounds like a recipe for misery. The latter sounds immature & stubborn.

[Option 3: nag the hell out of him today, so that we can all have a relaxing holiday weekend. This is what his mother used to do to him when his lazyness was holding the rest of the household back. I don't want to live like that, but it gets results. It's so 1950s.] [/quote]

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