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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your first step is realizing without your DH you're probably not going to keep the house and neighborhood. Doubtful you can afford it after 6 years out of work and he has to pay child support and his household so he won't be able to afford to pay the mortgage for you. So step 1 is be realistic about what you're looking at which is a huge decrease in your standard of living. Smaller house/apartment, maybe the same school if you're lucky, working and doing daycare pickup and drop off and all that. It's important to really get your head around this because once you ask for the divorce this is your reality. You're not staying in that house.

I would guess your first step is get a job and get your finances in order. Come up with a realistic budget for what you can afford with your salary and the Maryland child support calculator. Start looking at apartments/town homes. Then bring it up to your DH and lay it all out there. Try to go no lawyer or mediation if you can to save money. Figure out which holiday you get and which he gets and how to alternate so you have a plan in place to discuss . [/quote]

This is excellent advice.  I know of a DW who was shocked to learn that if she left her husband, she wouldn't be able to force him to continue to pay for everything that he paid for as a married couple.  She thought his paycheck would simply continue to be direct deposited into a joint checking account, where she held the actual checkbook.[/quote]

Some women (and men) are just born idiots. OP PPs here are good advice. That neighborhood and house you love so much, who's actually paying for it? Divorce that person and you are SOL.[/quote]

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