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[quote=Anonymous]Is it better? Yes, but...

After years of worsening mental health issues that my ex refused to treat, I left with our three kids. He had numerous job losses, there was chaos at home, increasing emotional distance and general under functioning. During our divorce (which was awful), I learned the full extent of his financial and emotional (and sexual) irresponsibility, which I will be dealing with for years. Luckily, he did not fight me on custody. But he barely pays child support, and is not a co-parent in any sense of the word.

It is a relief to not have to deal with a passive aggressive partner, and it is a relief not to over-function for him anymore. It is a relief not to worry about the next disaster. But I've lost my house, my retirement, and my credit is in tatters. And some days, rebuilding a life for myself at 50 while holding it together for my kids seems like an insurmountable task. So while I'm not doing the happy dance, or rolling around in alimony, or patting myself on the back for coming out of this with a nice fat bank account, at least I know what I'm dealing with. And I've got my kids, my health, a place to live, some friends, family, work, and I'm even carving out a social life again. [/quote]

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