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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Growing up my mom was addicted to pain pills. She never left the house and would control my life from her bedroom. She would get on the computer and chat with friends, pretending to me. she would force me to talk on the phone beside her and write down what I was supposed to say, she would call coaches and complain even thought she never went to any of my games. She would ground me if I didn't go to the tanning bed, would tell me I wasn't pretty/thin enough my whole life. When she wasn't doing those things she just slept all the time, never cooked a meal or played a board gam. It's all very messed up.

Today she is sober and unfortunately is still a bad person. I always had hopes that once she got off the pills things would be better but she's still the same person. I'm still not pretty enough and tells me I don't take pride in my looks. Tells me my daughter looks like a poor kid because she won't keep bows in her hair. If I come to her with a problem she will say it's because our souls aren't right with the lord. She obsesses over every thing a post on fb and will call me if she doesn't like something I wrote or a picture I took. [b]She told me just this week she hoped I would have turned out better than I did. [/b]

How do I come to terms with the only mother I'll ever have just isn't a good one. I've told her how I feel and she starts cryin saying I don't appreciate her and everything she's done for me(not sure what that is) and when I don't play into that she gets angry and says that's just who she is and she can't change. 
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How did you not say back to her" yeah I know exactly what you mean, I was really hoping you would turn out better once you were sober but that didn't happen. Oh well, I guess it's disappointment all around."

But seriously, yes, therapy can help. Rest assured it wasn't you. Your mom would have sucked at mothering any child she had. You could have been absolutely perfect and she still would have screwed up as a parent. [/quote]

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