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[quote=Anonymous]Give her nothing to glom onto. Why does she even know where you work out/what class you took? "Where do you work out?" "Oh, I've just been jogging lately."

How does she even have the contact info of your best friend?

Here's the deal--you can't use her for help when you feel like it, and then resent the way she gives you that help. If you resent her bragging about watching the kids for three hours while you shop, don't let her watch the kids for three hours. You can either accept help and the "consequences" that come with it, or you can decline the help.

She can only be involved in your life if you let her. Don't let her/set some boundaries. My MIL would never ask for my friends' contact info, and if she did, I would ask why and "work around" the problem. But if your friend accepted a friend request from MIL on Facebook, then handed over her contact info? Well, then they have their own relationship, and you don't get to police it.

Be general with her. Be breezy, be vague. Don't take her up on her offers to help--the downside is, you don't get the help, but then she doesn't get to do the martyr/savior routine.[/quote]

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