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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No sudden moves.

Calmly tell you asshat husband that he isn't allowed to simply drop that bomb on you and control the next steps. That's not how this will work.

He needs to tell you why, and you need to discuss it.

You two should do therapy--and so should the kids once they've been told.

You two must agree that all next steps will be carried out with the best interests of the children whose lives will be turned upside down. The therapist can coach you on how to tell the kids.

Act like you are committed to working on the marriage, but quietly lawyer up.

I've seen people handle it this way, and I think that's what I would do: the kids stay in their own home, and the parents stay at the house when they have custody. Some have spent off nights with their parents or in a nearby rental. Some move in with their GF/BF. It's less disruptive to the kids. *No GF/BF allowed in the family home.

Make sure DH gets custody Thursday thru Sunday so he doesn't have weekends off. Why should he get his cake and eat it too? Feel free to show up and the kids weekend games/activities, but don't be on the hook for them. (Hope his GF is inconvenienced when he isn't available on the weekends). [/quote]

This +1000. Print this out and follow it. All of it. [/quote]

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