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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She didn't go off to utopia. She went off to learn away from home.  She shouldn't expect to be happy 100% of the time. My friend and I just met for lunch - she had a horrible dream last night, spilled hot tea on herself, and is worried about her job and boyfriend. But on social media she posted a pic of her breakfast and raved about it. Had we not gotten together I wouldn't know the full picture.

[b]For the record, I went out with friends exactly twice in college[/b]. I went to exactly one bar, zero parties. I worked through a work/study job and really enjoyed working in the registrar and the people I worked with. I really liked some of my classes, really disliked some, and was meh about others.  One time I wore two different sneakers to school by accident. I bonded with one girl over how much our teacher favored another girl. I can't remember her name now. I lived at home. I had brunch with my grandparents every Sunday morning. I basically had a B average.

Humans are meant to experience the full spectrum of emotions. We're not meant to be happy all the time. 50% happiness during waking hours seems great to me. I think she just needs to adjust her expectations and appreciate the smaller things. [/quote]

NP. I find this fascinating.  [/quote]

I used the definition others would use for "going out with friends." So I am not including when I went to the grocery store with a friend, or went to the bursar and stood in line with a friend. I have always loved going on errands with people I like. Once I went to a bar with two friends.  I was 17, and had zero interest in drinking (nothing has changed there).  One friend met a boy and left with him. The other friend ran into a guy friend of hers, introduced us, then decided to stay and keep drinking. She insisted he walk me home. He did, and we stopped four times for him to puke. I gave him gum after each puking.  The second time I went out with three girlfriends. I can't remember what exactly we did, just that I parked in a part of Queens I wasn't very familiar with (Rego Park?) and then we wound up at the house of one of the girls and had a popcorn fight and made a mess and I felt bad leaving her to clean it up. But when I look back overall on those years I was content.

Maybe that's the difference between me and OP's daughter. My goal is contentness. I don't strive to be happy. I strive to be content. Maybe that's why I'm happy doing errands with friends. [/quote]

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