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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I have tried talking to him about it before. I asked him just pick two nights not to drink as a start bc I was getting so much pushback.   Now, he acts like it is a big deal that he doesn't drink for those two nights and gets mad at me if I ask him to hold off on another evening. I don't know what to do. It's like he is upset us with alcohol. Perhaps we go out to dinner at each have a glass of wine. That is fine but that is not the end.  He will come home and continue to drink more and more.

Lately, he has started to be rather nasty to me after he had been drinking. He has been saying a lot of hurtful things, and it's really bad for our relationship.  Of course, that impacts my interest in being intimate with him. That in turn, make him say more nasty things to me. It is a vicious cycle right now.

My kids have started saying daddy seems to be more mean these days. This is happening even when he hasn't had any alcohol. I don't know what to do. I am at a loss. I love him, but I want to guy I married to come back. What do I do? [/quote]

How much was he drinking before you told him to quit two nights a week? And was he treating you badly? If he was drinking enough that it was causing trouble in his life and/or he was treating you & the kids poorly, then he has a drinking problem that he needs to address or you & the kids need to get out.

On the other hand -- and I don't think this is the case based on what you said -- if the trouble only started after you told him to stop, then it could be a reaction to controlling behavior. I drink one or two beers a night, pretty much every night. It doesn't cause any trouble and doesn't make me treat the family any differently. I like how they taste, and (right or wrong) it signifies relaxation for me. If my wife arbitrarily told me to stop, I'd probably react negatively. [/quote]

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