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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things happen for a reason. I'm sure there was a reason you weren't jumping at the chance to marry him when that option was on the table. Don't second guess yourself now! 
I'm sorry things are so rough for you now, I hope they improve soon. [/quote]

He could be irritable and moody and a lot of times not really pay attention to me when I was trying to talk with him. More focused on blackberry and work.

His moods were unpredictable. He's been diagnosed with add and depression and takes adderall so was maybe that. But I also wonder if I hadn't stalled, if the fact I wasn't sure I was ready to commit to him, made him distance himself and be more moody. [/quote]

OP, I imagine you are rewriting history, which is a natural thing after a break-up, particularly when things aren't going as well for you as you had hoped.
If it had been right, you would've married him.  If you had married him, you wouldn't be happy. What you describe are serious issues and very valid reasons not to marry someone. You are idealizing him and the relationship now because a) you have a year of distance from it and b) we tend to remember only the good things and c) you are in a low point in your life.

The antidote isn't getting back with this guy - far from it. You have the right to want better for yourself. But you need to put all of your focus on building yourself up again, and building the life you want. Focus on healing, not on this guy's new house, etc.

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Very true![/quote]

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