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[quote=Anonymous]I have two sisters. My middle sister (let's call her Melissa) and I get along great. We talk every day. Little sister (Let's call her Lili) is in a perpetual fight with pretty much everyone except my parents and her husband. My parents are both narcissists (according to my therapist) and Lili is their golden child. Melissa and I alternate between black sheep and between black sheep and golden child. Both of us have (with the help of our therapists) distanced ourselves to occasional phone calls and rare visits.  Lili lives in the same town as my parents and visits every single day. She considers them to be their best friend.  She is unbelievably cruel every time I've spoken to her, saying horrible things about my special needs child, accusing my husband of "destroying their wedding" because he lost a cuff link (and other reasons she claims but never articulates), and being generally horrible. Her trick is to pretend to be nice on the phone or in person saying "sarcastic" things such as "your son is never going to bring home a pregnant girlfriend at least!"  Later she will tell our parents that we were horrible to her. My husband stood up to her one time, ten years ago, and she never forgets it. He told her to not speak to me in that manner and tossed my dress on the bed. She twisted that around and told my parents that he threw it in her face, hit her with it, pushed her to the ground and screamed at her. The only issue is that Melissa and I were both in the room and none of that happened. My parents naturally believe Lili. She has repeated this exact thing pretty much with Melissa and claims that Melissa's husband hacked into her phone and threw them out of his house (also false).

Lili's husband just came out as gay. My parents are pushing my sister to live together anyway, and her husband seems like that's the route he wants to take as well. He will just have his relationships and my sister will pretend like everything is fine. She hasn't told me anything, but she did tell Melissa who told her to get divorced. My parents don't want her to divorce because her gay husband is very, very wealthy and my parents love mooching off his family. His family is staying neutral.

Part of my wants to call her and tell her to leave this man and try to find her own happiness. But I suspect she won't listen to me anyway. Furthermore I can't forget how she tormented my son and husband and me over the years. She spent so much time turning my parents and anyone who would listen away from us. Of course my parents are horrible on their own merits, but she absolutely enabled their behavior too.

My dad just called and told me it's time to "bury the hatchet". He caught me at s bad time and I said that I had no desire to talk to someone who has repeatedly told lies about my family. I told him that it was unsurprising that she is telling a similar story about Melissa's husband.

At the same time I'm worried about her. Thoughts?[/quote]

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