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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read Madeline Levine, Ph.D., Stanford College of Education, author of "Teach Your Children Well," et. al. Her books are based on data from NIH and PEW, not some fad theory. "Gifted education" is part of the problem for many kids.[/quote]

We've all heard this for years.  We read Nurtureshock, etc.

That's not what OP was complaining about, though, she's complaining about overstressed kids with overanxious parents.  [/quote]

No, she's not.  She responded yesterday to a thread on the SN forum:

Anonymous wrote:
Hello all,

I have an 8 year old that is exhibiting some very challenging behaviors and I'm not quite sure how to address. This is what we're dealing with: 
--very defiant 
--argumentative at home and school 
--not filtering what he says 
--interupting 
--explosive temper sometimes when not getting his way (yelling, destroying things in room if sent there to cool down) 
--seems very bright in others' opinions (e.g., reading and math at advanced levels, picks things up quickly, asks probing and unconventional questions) 
--when correcting his BEHAvIOR, typically responds with "you just think I'm stupid!" (We constantly say that is not the case at all!) 
--exaggerates situations and seems generally pessimistic. When sick, the world is ending and he "just wants to die." 
--seems to have developed some tics(?) within the last year (certain repeated body movements)

These behaviors seem to be accelerating and it's really been impacting things at home and school. Reading some others posts in this forum, I am wondering if ADHD or anxiety may be at play?

Recommendations for first step? Is a neuropsych evaluation what we need to do to figure out what is going on?

Any helpful information you can share will be much appreciated. This is really taking a toll on everyone."

This OP responded,

"[i]My friend [/i]who is a psychiatrist says these behaviors are really growing in kids who have been told they're "gifted." The idea that they are superior to others is [b]corrosive[/b]."

Yet no where in the mom's post did she mention gifted.
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/604045.page

This OP has a weird axe to grind.

Plus, Dweck's and Levine's research is about teaching values and parenting style:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/05/opinion/sunday/raising-successful-children.html

I don't think the OP's actually read Levine's book.[/quote]

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