We are spending the weekend in a vacation house with my family and I feel so strange this year like I'm all alone and in my own little mom category.
There's my mom and 2 aunts that will spend the weekend doing puzzles, watching the news, painting their thrifted treasures, and sewing. Then my brothers (twins, 27yo) are both bringing their girlfriends to meet the family for the first time. Girlfriends are both 25yo skinny minnie blonde bombshells. Then my two cousins 26yo and 28yo with their fiances. All these 20 somethings will sleep in then have mimosas with breakfast and spend the weekend day drinking and relaxing. Then there's me, 35yo, with my 2yo and 3 month old. Nursing every two hours and trying to tame my oversupply. Post partum bod in a mom bathing suit this year. Will spend the weekend wrangling my toddler, diffusing tantrums, up at 6am and 2-3x a night with baby, attempting to stick to eating and nap schedules so life doesn't go to shit. Saying this all in jest because I totally understand this is my season of life, but I'm not even sure if I want to fit in with the young fun adults or the senior citizens anymore. |
That is a lot of people in one vacation home! I would never! |
It's just my mom, 2 aunts, kids and I in the house. The 20 somethings have a mix of pop up campers and tents in the yard. |
All the young adults will be trying to impress their SO’s by fawning over your kids and playing house. |
Exactly. Pawn that toddler right off on one of those skinny minnie's. Next, hand someone the baby pretty much anytime you need to. In a lot of ways this is a TERRIFIC kid-adult ratio. As long as the 20 somethings are responsible, pass your kids off! They may not have a reasonable idea of what's appropriate for kids this little though, so I'd just keep and eye on that. In a few years, this will be awesome too, and your kids will be done being needy by the time all these youngins have kids. |
Exactly. The skinnie minnies will use your kids as props to show how they will make great moms. The guys will completely buy into the image of perky boobs, slender waists women holding chubby cute infants as what their future holds. The only thing you have to do is fake the whole motherhood thing. Talk in lovely soft sing song voice to your kids. Become the "together" "Basking in motherhood" kind of mom with a secret smile of self-satisfaction for bearing kids. Be very kind, welcoming to the skinny minnies and be extra gentle when you hand your kids to them. Scoop in when you want to nurse the baby and don't wait to change smelly diapers. Make sure that your kids are looking cute. Be the hallmark mom with flowy summer clothes and happy kids. Soften your eyes and tone when talking to others ...and you will become #WombGoals Then, absolutely use them to look after your kids. ![]() |
We were the last in my husband's family to have kids and I completely missed out on the free babysitting that I absolutely did for the first round of grandkids! Definitely work it to your advantage. Also, nursing is a great escape for some quiet time when the togetherness is too much. |
I dunno, the day drinking 20something crew doesn't seem like the best place to pawn off very young kids, aside from holding the baby briefly until it poops or cries. The senior citizens might be more helpful/reliable. But, agree that there are enough hands around that OP might be able to catch a little break. |
Stay home No one without children wants to have a nursing mother with a two year old tagging along! Under no circumstances, ask anyone for help for any thing. Au |
What a strange comment. You don't "tag along" with your own family. |
DP. It would not even have occurred to me to do that in my 20s. I had no interest in kids and zero experience holding them. My first baby, at 33, was maybe the third baby I had ever held, and certainly the first diaper I ever changed. I would have been kind to a boyfriend's niece/nephew but not involved. I would be the one sipping mimosas and sleeping late. ![]() |
This. |
Same here. I used to blanche when people would ask if I wanted to hold their babies. Um... no? OP - I actually cut a beach trip short when I tried to do this with kids this age. My toddler learned how to operate a door that lead to the beach, and managed to escape while I was getting my 4 month old up from a nap, and the adults that were supposed to be watching the toddler didn't fully understand that was a hands-on job. It was just too much and I wasn't enjoying myself at all. Hopefully you'll get some help when you're there, and can get some rest. |
Sounds awful. Why are you even going? |