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The braggers make me gag. I have an FB friend who is ALWAYS posting how many miles she ran, how she fits into jeans she wore five years ago even though she has a six-week-old baby, and the latest fancy gift her husband bought her. But when I see all the positive comments she gets for these updates, it makes me feel bitter and insecure - why should I begrudge her these good things in her life? Besides, there is probably a reason why people have to actively present such a perfect image to the world, and it is most likely a bit manufactured. |
I think we have the same FB friends. |
Yikes. |
I really enjoy FB too because I'm pretty much like the poster above. I've been on it about 1.5 yrs now and have just under 100 friends now but for most of that time it's been about 75/80 people. Of course I'm not great friends with all of them, but I only "friend" someone if I truly know them and want them to be a part of my life. And same for accepting friend invites, though I'll admit probably about 25% of my 100ish people are invites I accepted because I thought I didn't want to hurt their feelings and no harm done being connected to them (high school and college folks fall a lot into this group)...though some of them I hide them so it's pretty like I don't know they are there. It's kind of funny the people I see who have like 400 friends(!)...I'm guessing these people will "friend" or accept a "friend" invite from someone they met once or who is a friend of a friend? To each their own... |
I definitely have too many FB friends -- 300. At first I was really good about not accepting friend requests from high school and college people that I wasn't actually good friends with, but somehow along the way I accepted a couple and then I felt like I should accept the rest of them. I do have a special privacy setting where I exclude them from pics of my children, but I haven't unfriended just yet. Every time I go to unfriend someone, I realize that they're friends with someone I DO want to stay friends with, and I have second thoughts.
I guess that's all just to say that not every person who has a lot of friends is a FB friend-grubber. Some of us are just too soft, I guess. ![]() |
I'm not all that active on FB. I never post status updates but I do comment on others' from time to time. Very few of my close friends who are on FB are actually active so it's a bit strange to log on and learn what random high school acquaintances are doing every moment of their lives.
Early on I had people friend me, and I felt obligated to write a short greeting on their wall. But often I never got a response. I never quite understood this. Do others experience this regularly on FB? |
I think it would be annoying if you only use it to talk to people you don't really want to talk to. But it's not limited to small talk with highschool friends...it can be used to find a million special interest groups, if you're into that. DH uses it to stay in the loop with the martial arts world.
I find it extremely useful in communicating with my students and other instructors...to share music, choreography, links of interest, ideas, stories. It's especially useful when I have to cancel for a blizzard or organize an event. I also like getting daily pictures of beautiful beaches around the world, getting Colbert Report updates, or that many people can jump on a discussion about the one-legged salsa dancer or Nikes or whatever it is someone posted. |
Yes, and it's odd to me too. I had people who I was never friends with in h.s. send me friend requests, then never say a word. Very odd, indeed. |
You are lovely people. ![]() Why don't you come clean to your "friends" about how you feel about FB and their lives? See how many friends you have left. Or better yet, if it annoys you SO much, delete your account and move along. Why be such bitches about it? |
Good for you. I have neither the time nor the energy to keep up day-to-day conversations with all of my friends and family. I already spend hours a day on the phone. Nor do I believe an "IN PERSON" dinner means you can't also keep in touch with people online. But whatever. You're the big winner. I'm sure I've got a ribbon around here somewhere... |
I think the reason I have a lot of Facebook friends is because I've always been social in person! It doesn't take the place of one-on-one interaction, of course, but it's a nice, convenient supplement. I talk a lot about books and music on Facebook, and I can definitely discuss those things with a much wider circle there than I would be able to otherwise. I love that about it. |