Would you still allow sleepovers?
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Anonymous
| My sister is known to quite frequently indulge in “not enough to get stoned but enough to relax” marijuana after her kids go to bed. I used to think it was fine, but after what recently happened, I’m not sure what to think. My nephew woke up in the night and fell out of bed, breaking his arm. My sister claims she was so high that she didn’t feel comfortable to drive, had to call an ambulance to get him to the hospital. We often let our kids have sleepovers. I’m now not convinced she doesn’t indulge when they are over. She’s always claimed she doesn’t, but I’m looking at the whole thing differently now. They are supposed to spend the night Saturday night, and I have no idea what to do now. |
Anonymous
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Wow, how high was that bed?
She knew she couldn't drive - actually seems like good judgment. Ask her not to while your kids are over. If she agrees and you trust her to be honest, let them stay. If she doesn't agree or you don't trust her honesty, just say no. Treat it like alcohol or anything else that impairs your judgment. |
Anonymous
A bunk  he landed just right.
I think my main concern was that it’s apparent she was minimizing her usage, which is indicative of a problem? I don’t know. |
Anonymous
Why is that apparent? |
Anonymous
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No. I live in San Francisco where a LOT of people eat a quarter of a pot brownie each night, or take a hit or two off a joint when they get home from work each day.
But if she was so high she didn't feel well enough to drive, that's too much for me. |
Anonymous
| No sleep overs there or anywhere else. You don't know what goes on at night in peoples homes. |
Anonymous
| If she had been partaking, she may have felt any amount was enough to keep her from driving, just erring on the side of caution. How old are your kids, OP? |
Anonymous
| How old are your kids? |
Anonymous
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This happened at my house. Had 3 moms over my house, kids in the basement ... 1 needed stitches. After 3 glasses of wine I did not feel we should drive. Called one of the dads.
We were not wasted but the amount you can drink and drive is so low .... way different than too wasted to care for a child. I think you are over reacting unless she was so stoned she could not go to the hospital with her child... that would be different. |
Anonymous
| I think she actually showed good judgement in not driving. I would be fine letting my kids stay over. |
Anonymous
Yes, this exactly. |
Anonymous
| Depends on a 100 things. I'm glad she showed good judgement and decided not to drive. I'd factor in how your kids are, how close you live, access to phones in case of emergency, etc. I'd also ask her not to smoke while my kids are there. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely not. Have the kids at your house, especially if they are younger. If they are older, no, as she may get them addicted. |
Anonymous
LOL Addicted!? Goodness. Talk about overreacting. Bet you're at home smoking a fatty right now... |
Skyeblue
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Hell no. You only know what she's telling you, and yes, she's minimizing her usage. In med school we're taught to ask about alcohol consumption, and then double what people tell us as their actual usage. Ten years out of residency it's a pretty spot-on rule. Similar principles apply to substances.
Look I'm not judging. Her house, her life, her kids. And I'm sorry to hear about your nephew. But this isn't a risk you can accurately assess for your own kids because you only have her self-assessment which is by nature, flawed. Hang out with you there? Sure. Sleepovers with you not? Nope. |