Letting DH down easy

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[Post New]01/19/2019 08:46
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Anonymous
First of all I want to say that I love my DH. He is not perfect, but he is perfect for me. We have 2 kids and I am expecting #3 in less than 6 weeks. One of the things I live about him is that he is very high drive and wants to have sex as often as I am willing to. We are usually 3 times a week on average, but I am starting to get very tired, I am huge and I am worried of preterm labor. I have had 2 C sections and I have another scheduled for when I will be 39+5. He has been really amazing lately picking up a lot of the work with the kids. When home, I am now often in bed or on the couch (this pregnancy has been hard) and he does basically everything when he is home. I am flattered that he still finds me attractive (I am not sure how that’s possible since I am 40 lbs over my usual weight), but I have no desire anymore and feel really bad telling him this. Sex is very important for him and in our relationship. I think maybe we can decrease to once or twice a week and the stop when I am 37 weeks... he has really been amazing while I have been useless and in a bad mood
[Post New]01/19/2019 08:50
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Anonymous
Have you talked to him about it? Not when you’re in bed, but at another time? He sounds like a great guy and mature enough to figure this out with you. Trust him and trust your relationship.
You’ll figure this out..with him.
[Post New]01/19/2019 08:52
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Anonymous
Felatio
[Post New]01/19/2019 09:10
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Anonymous
Don’t worry about preterm labor. That’s not a real concern if you haven’t had prior preterm births or complications.
[Post New]01/19/2019 09:21
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry about preterm labor. That’s not a real concern if you haven’t had prior preterm births or complications.


OP here. I was going to ask my OB this week about it. That’s my biggest worry because I have many more BH contractions than I used to have at this point with either one of my past pregnancies. Also, I feel baby is lower. I will ask next week, but no, I went to almost 42 weeks with my first (induces and then C sections) and had a C section with my second at 39+4 and never went into labor. I hope the same for this baby
[Post New]01/19/2019 09:23
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry about preterm labor. That’s not a real concern if you haven’t had prior preterm births or complications.


OP here. I was going to ask my OB this week about it. That’s my biggest worry because I have many more BH contractions than I used to have at this point with either one of my past pregnancies. Also, I feel baby is lower. I will ask next week, but no, I went to almost 42 weeks with my first (induces and then C sections) and had a C section with my second at 39+4 and never went into labor. I hope the same for this baby


Sounds like your OB has a high c-section rate.
[Post New]01/19/2019 09:29
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry about preterm labor. That’s not a real concern if you haven’t had prior preterm births or complications.


OP here. I was going to ask my OB this week about it. That’s my biggest worry because I have many more BH contractions than I used to have at this point with either one of my past pregnancies. Also, I feel baby is lower. I will ask next week, but no, I went to almost 42 weeks with my first (induces and then C sections) and had a C section with my second at 39+4 and never went into labor. I hope the same for this baby


Sounds like your OB has a high c-section rate.


Not sure, but the first time was an emergency and a different doctor, second was my choice
[Post New]01/19/2019 09:33
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry about preterm labor. That’s not a real concern if you haven’t had prior preterm births or complications.


OP here. I was going to ask my OB this week about it. That’s my biggest worry because I have many more BH contractions than I used to have at this point with either one of my past pregnancies. Also, I feel baby is lower. I will ask next week, but no, I went to almost 42 weeks with my first (induces and then C sections) and had a C section with my second at 39+4 and never went into labor. I hope the same for this baby


Sounds like your OB has a high c-section rate.


Sounds like you don’t understand how numbers, rates and trends work.
[Post New]01/19/2019 09:50
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cba
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A few thoughts from a couple that went through the same thing 20 years ago...

It is crucial that you tell him how you're feeling and keep him in the loop as to how you're feeling each day. He seems to be very understanding, but he's not a mind reader

I'm sure he's intellectually aware that it's not about him, but remind him anyway just in case he having a bad day. We men are more fragile than we seem.

Don't feel bad for how you're feeling. You're growing another human being inside of you. That's hard work!

Pregnant women are sexy!

Even though DH sounds like an amazing man, he still has sexual needs. Not necessarily a need for sex, but for a sexual release. BJs and HJs are very useful tools to get through tough times.

Don't forget this lack of desire is temporary. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Did I mention that pregnant women are sexy?

Hang in there!

Feel free to PM if you want to.

[Post New]01/19/2019 11:17
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Anonymous
If you want to keep the feeling of closeness without going thru the actual act, suggest he pleasure himself in front of you and if it's not too much of a burden, finish on you. It can be a little curveball, something different that accomplishes his goal of sexual satisfaction and your goal of reduced involvement.

My DW had a different experience. She was waking me up to have sex in the middle of the night days before going in for her c section. Everyone's hormones rage in different ways.
[Post New]01/19/2019 11:24
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Anonymous
Men are so dumb, immature and selfish. No, they don't have a right to endless sex when their wives are 8 months pregnant.

What idiot males think like this?

[Post New]01/19/2019 11:29
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Men are so dumb, immature and selfish. No, they don't have a right to endless sex when their wives are 8 months pregnant.

What idiot males think like this?


PP-What happened to you that made you lack basic reading comprehension skills?
[Post New]01/19/2019 11:32
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Anonymous
cba wrote:A few thoughts from a couple that went through the same thing 20 years ago...

It is crucial that you tell him how you're feeling and keep him in the loop as to how you're feeling each day. He seems to be very understanding, but he's not a mind reader

I'm sure he's intellectually aware that it's not about him, but remind him anyway just in case he having a bad day. We men are more fragile than we seem.

Don't feel bad for how you're feeling. You're growing another human being inside of you. That's hard work!

Pregnant women are sexy!

Even though DH sounds like an amazing man, he still has sexual needs. Not necessarily a need for sex, but for a sexual release. BJs and HJs are very useful tools to get through tough times.

Don't forget this lack of desire is temporary. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Did I mention that pregnant women are sexy?

Hang in there!

Feel free to PM if you want to.



She’s tired. Can’t he just service himself?
[Post New]01/19/2019 11:53
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Anonymous
DH here. He will understand. Just chat it up with him. he seems reasonable. Though, I can relate to why he wants to have sex with you, regardless of what you weigh. A pregnant wife is hot.
[Post New]01/19/2019 13:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Don’t worry about preterm labor. That’s not a real concern if you haven’t had prior preterm births or complications.


That's what my OBs thought after two children delivered at term. The third came at 34 weeks. It's all a crapshoot.
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