How to get on dating scene after divorce
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Anonymous
| I think I need to divorce DH. The only thing holding me back is that I'm terrified of dating. I feel like it's been so long and I don't know what I'm doing. What's the dating scene like for divorcees? Where do I go to find someone? |
Anonymous
| From a single womans perspective. Lots of bitter divorced men. Give them and yourself s liitle time to heal. |
taketothebank
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Take it slow and give yourself time to meet people. Try dating just to meeting people and not a part of searching for that "special someone" until you get back in the swing of dating.
Yes, there are bitter divorced people out there (and, sadly, on DCUM every now and then.) However, there are happy, fun, and well adjusted people out there as well. |
Anonymous
| How about get divorced first. Crawl THEN walk. |
Anonymous
| I'm surprised you're thinking of dating before divorcing. I'm in the middle of a separation and can't imagine getting involved anytime soon. |
Anonymous
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It just happens. You can’t overthink it.
And on the topic of getting divorced first, while I wouldn’t have dated before we were definitively separated and the paperwork process started, my marriage was long over. It’s not like Bam! Today we will break up! It was a long, long time coming. It had been on my mind awhile, and dating again was also a legit concern for me. |
Anonymous
OP isn’t even separated yet though so of course she can think about dating. Right now it’s this great little fantasy. |
Anonymous
| I have been separated for 3 years ...divorce paperwork taking forever. I get asked out but the dates are awful...confirmed bachelors playing the scene, 55 year olds with toddlers, 65 year olds who thin at 44 your old to date, guys who complain about their exes, under employed and uninteresting. I could go on. If you just want a FWB...that is not a problem. |
Anonymous
| Don't date. You had your chance. Let the never-married get first pick of the waning flock. |
Anonymous
This is so damn funny and pretty much how I feel. |
Anonymous
| Don’t get divorced unless you are ok with the idea of being alone for the rest of your life. It’s very empowering to not feel like you need a man. |
Anonymous
| Obvious troll post people! |