My boyfriend stopped having sex with me

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:And told me he was asexual. But we had a ton of sex in the beginning of our relationship. We dated for 1 year and then moved In together. He is short with me and even sometimes belittling. I know he’s stressed about school and finding a job afterwards. I love him but I feel so unattractive. I gained a little weight but what can I do. I don’t want to dump him but I’m finding myself seeking attention from other men just to feel somewhat like a woman.

He doesn’t communicate with me, he doesn’t even touch me, but says he loves me. (Usually when prompted)
We’re 26. It’s become awkward to talk to him about sex


You don’t want to dump him? Bad idea to stay.

You need attention from other men to make you feel better? Bad idea. You need to feel comfortable and happy alone before you can be in a relationship. If you need another person to make you feel complete/whole, you have self esteem problems - you need to address those first.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:We dated for 1 year and then moved In together.


Let me guess, the "asexuality" started after the cohabitation.
It's not going to get any better cut your losses and start over with someone else.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He wants to break up but doesn't know how (yes it's shitty, yes he should be able to just do it, but he can't and this is what's happening). Leave him before he hurts you even more.


+1. He's trying to get you to break it off so he doesn't have to be the bad guy.
Anonymous
Guy here. Move out. Don't look back. Work on restoring your confidence. Meet someone better. Don't move in with him unless you're married. (That last part's not a Puritan thing, it's a simple matter of getting what you want.)
Anonymous
Whatever his deal is, unless you are happy never having sex again, it's time to move on.
Anonymous
Get his testosterone levels checked.
Anonymous
Run
Anonymous
End it.
If you were 40+ or had kids, you'd get different answers. And if he were a sweetheart otherwise and non-sexually affectionate, you could work with that. But you got nothing.
Anonymous
Another guy here. He wants you to end it.
Anonymous
What are you getting out of this relationship other than some warm fuzzy feeling that you're in a relationship?
Anonymous
And you stay with him for what reason?
Anonymous
Leave.

The end.

You stay with him, youll be back here posting about the same problem having thought you could have changed it when you were dating.
Anonymous
I do not understand why this is even a question??!!

You are 26. Not married. No kids.

Your BF has told you he is asexual.

You don't have sex.

He doesn't touch you or interact much with you.

He makes you feel bad about yourself.

Other than calling yourself BF and GF, you do not have any sort of relationship with this person. Why have you not left?
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Anonymous
I say don't move in with a guy unless you're happy with how the relationship is going and on the same page about the future. It's fine to live with Mr. Right Now if you both agree that you want that. Relationships before marriage are pay-as-you-go. You can't invest more than you can afford expecting big gains in the future.
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