Anonymous wrote:This is more than emotional abuse. What OP is describing is physical and emotional abuse. He may not ever "hit" OP, but blocking her, slamming things, grabbing her, etc. are all beyond what I would consider emotional abuse.

And if he doesn't do it at work, he is capable of emotionally regulating himself. He just finds it too hard to do it all the time.

My DH is like this and he has gotten a lot better over the years. Now he at least knows when he is about to lose it and he goes into another room and has his tantrum. I don't like it, but as long as he is not anywhere near me or touching me he can deal with his frustration however he wants. I consider it a starting point, and I would rather he not do this at all, but marriages are not perfect equations that will always work out the way you want.

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Anonymous wrote:He needs to go back into his past and deal with all of it to try and overcome the PTSD. I have it because of emotional trauma as a child. I had to literally tear off layer after layer of my past no matter how much it hurt, to try to get to a place where I could function without using anger. It worked, but it took years. I didn't go to therapy, I did it on my own. Therapy does me no good. I can't open up to anyone. Now I no longer punch walls and break my fingers, I don't go off on my husband over little things, I am controlled with medication for my depression and anxiety, and we have a good marriage. I talk to my husband, my ex-husband, and my adult sons. They are always there to listen. I hope your husband is able to overcome this, OP. I've been there.

Any specific books or techniques that you used that you might be able to recommend to OP or others dealing with the same issues?