Looking for my mom crew...
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burquechick
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| And it isn't going well. I've posted a number of events in various forums and groups, but no one ever shows up. I've reached out to my local MOPS group, but they are full. The contact for the postpartum group in my area doesn't respond to emails. The MOMS Club finally responded to my emails, but with an attitude of "why are you bothering me?" I think my kid (1 year old now) would really enjoy being around other kids. And I'm just bored to tears sitting at home with him all day by myself. I haven't reached out to Hike It Baby or that mommy running group thing, but I'm losing feeling in my toes from carrying him, so those probably aren't great options for me. Doesn't anyone just want to sit and chill with a cup of coffee or something while our kids roll around on the ground? |
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| Where do you live? |
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I made friends by going to the playground, not going online. |
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Have you tried meetup.com?
Agree you might find like minded mothers at groups. But when mine were tiny all the other women in the groups or the playground were spanish speaking nannies or grandmas. It was hard to find a mom. |
Anonymous
| Go to mom and kid yoga |
Anonymous
| Yoga than preschool age 2 near you. Will meet lots of Moms. |
Anonymous
| Our preschoo starts with mommy and me at 18 mos - and that’s where I made most of my Mom friends!! |
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Hi
where is your email love to have a coffee . My girl loves to have fin kid other kids. Happy olidays |
Anonymous
| I met a couple people through a local moms listserv. It's tricky because first-time moms have a hard time getting out, whereas moms of multiples already have a network. Where do moms take their one-year-olds in your area? Look for them there. If you see your kid playing with/next to another kid, strike up a conversation with that kid's mom. |
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| Post what city you live in and we can help. Our area has an email listserv. |
Anonymous
| I'd just get out there and try to make friends organically. Show up at the library for story hour, or go to a coffee shop, or a playground. |
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| I didn't really make any mom friends until my kids were in Elementary School. By nature of being involved in the PTO and the kids being old enough to be into parties/playdates/etc, I started getting to know parents. I don't have any Mom Friends I see outside of these settings, but I enjoy their company when we are together. |
burquechick
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I appreciate everyone's reply. I should have mentioned a couple things. My kid has some very bad food allergies (legumes and wheat) and pretty much can't seem to digest anything else, so I'm struggling to get him weaned and not really looking for exercise or activity groups. I'm looking for people I can meet at the library or bookstore or coffee shop and just hang with. Low pressure and flexible (because, again, my kid has digestive issues and can't always get out of the house last minute). But who knows, maybe they're all normal and I'm just being neurotic. But I wouldn't know that because I don't have any other moms to talk to. It's a vicious cycle.
My kid literally screamed 16 hours a day from birth until about 9 months when anaphylaxis (from pasta) sent us to the ER who sent us to an allergist who told ME to stop eating gluten and peanuts because the proteins where getting into my breast milk and making him sick. Now I'm pretty much just a broken crumpled shell of a human being (tapes of screaming babies were used to torture prisoners at Guantanamo) and am barely just starting to get outside the house again. Yay! Please, I would love a listserv or group or something. Sign me up! Shoot me an email at uvacita@gmail.com and I'll give you my direct address (I don't want to post it publicly). BTW, I'm in Arlington, VA in Crystal City. |
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| You can still post what general area you live. It's really helpful to find a crew that's relatively close to you and saying Arlington or NW DC or Bethesda or whatever isn't going to give you away. |
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What were you doing the first year? I have a great mom's group, but we got together when the babies were like 6 weeks and there's some shared connection by just getting through the first year together.
Have you tried classes like Gymboree, library groups, swim classes? |