I hate DH's ketogenic diet
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It is driving me nuts. It is all he talks about. He is constantly calculating his net carbs, and putting little strips in his urine to see whether or not he is in ketosis, and spending so much money on his diet which is about 50% or more meat right now. Constantly leaving pans used to cook said meat out with congealed fat on them. We have a preschool age and an elementary age child and he has also started passive-aggressively implying that I'm feeding our kids crap (carbs) and that all they eat is "processed junk" because I make them sandwiches with sliced bread from the grocery store and cheese that I didn't make myself from a cow that I personally milked. Also, since I am of Asian descent, I feed them rice (the horror!). He also has started smelling funky and I swear that he has a thin layer of grease sheen on his skin. Sigh.
Would it be unreasonable for me to ask him to shut this down and try to eat healthy in a manner that I feel is less obnoxious or am I being unreasonable for wanting to push back against his sincere effort to try to be healthier in some manner? |
Anonymous
| another unsustainable diet that is expensive and labor intensive. |
Anonymous
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Your husband sounds rude and obnoxious.
Also, ketogenic diets are NOT healthy for growing kids. And the traditional Asian diet is quite healthy, even though it includes rice. |
Anonymous
When did he start this diet? My husband went through this too, not with the ketogenic diet but the carb hate and passive aggressiveness about feeding the family "more healthy food." He got over it in a few months, particularly once I told him that I'd be making X, Y and Z for dinner and that if he did not want to eat those things, I'd be happy to direct him to a can of tuna and a head of lettuce. |
Anonymous
| My DH gave it up after 3 weeks. He stunk, his breath smelled, and he was mean and short tempered. I held my tongue and waited it out so he couldn't say I "forced" him to stop. |
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| If you think he is obnoxious now, just wait until he joins Crossfit. |
Anonymous
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Tell him you can support him if he does his bit. Will he make the kids lunches? No? Then no complaining. He shouldn't be leaving the dishes out. He needs to know he smells funky. Actually, milk makes me smell funky, so each to his own there.
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Huh. I love my husband's keto diet. No problems with his breath/body odor or a sheen of grease all over his skin. He's 30lbs lighter, no longer pre-diabetic, his thyroid medication has been decreased, he has more energy for the kids, and it's forced him to get creative in the kitchen instead of relying on pasta, bread, rice meals that crash his blood sugar. We have salad for dinner at least twice a week.
Your husband is being inconsiderate if he's leaving a mess in his wake, but keto isn't causing that. And why do you care if he's checking his ketone levels in the bathroom? Are you in there with him? Re: what the kids eat. I will agree with him that processed food isn't the best option for growing kids, but he's over reacting and rice is a heck of a lot different than, say, Cheetos and soda. It sounds like you're doing a great job there. I'd be tempted to invite him to go to an appointment with the ped with you if he thinks it's that bad. I'm sure the ped would set him straight. |
Anonymous
This. He better do his part! |
Anonymous
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I have a restrictive diet (vegan) and I think you're DH is out of line. As an adult, he can eat what he wants, but he needs to find a way to fit it into the family food budget. He also needs to clean up his messes.
The comments about your kids are way out of line. I understand the excitement that comes with a new diet and the desire to convert everyone, but you are their parent, too, and the conflict caused by arguing over their diet will do far more damage than anything they eat. Rice and sandwiches are fine, and even if you were feeding them junk for all 3 meals, being a passive-aggressive baby isn't the way to address it. How long has he been on this diet? People usually don't last too long on such restrictive diets, so there may be a light at the end of the tunnel. |
Anonymous
| Mine in now into those mud races. So annoying. |
Anonymous
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Oh man, his diet shouldn't be 50% or more meat. He should be eating a lot of vegetables, avocado, oils, eggs, etc. and not relying on that much animal protein. It shouldn't be that expensive to maintain.
+1 on him being a jerk for commenting on what your kids eat. The diet is great for me but kids need those carbs, no question, unless there is a medical reason to restrict them. |
Anonymous
| It's probably a temporary thing. Eventually, he'll be back on the carbs. |
Anonymous
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The smell will pass, and yes, keto still includes veggies like spinach, avocado, etc.
As far as the urine strips and whether he is “in ketosis”, he’s wasting his time and money. As long as he keeps his net carbs below 20-30 grams, he will be in ketosis. He should learn to clean up after himself and help make healthier foods for his children, not just complain about what you are feeding him. This behavior has nothing to do with his keto diet - it has to do with how he was raised and the behavior was probably reinforced in adulthood. |
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| ^^feeding *them* |