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Just back from vacation and fought with my husband the whole time
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Anonymous
| Usually we get a long reasonably well. This trip, the kids were a mess and we fought the whole time. Anyone else had this experience? We both just feel really sad and worn out over the experience. |
Anonymous
Want to come to Costa Rica with me to recover? (See the "vacationing alone" thread.) 
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Anonymous
| Sounds like heaven. Enjoy! I have taken a vacation alone, it is wonderful. |
Anonymous
| I have been sort of in your shoes. DH and I had a HUGE blow-out fight on our last vacation that came pretty close to causing us to separate. We worked through it, but it was bad at the time, and the badness was made worse by a kid who kept getting sick. So...yeah. Been there. Things are better now. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| So sorry for you. We've had trips that were partially like that. If that were us, I think it would most likely be down to the fact that the kids were difficult and caused stress for us. Are they young? Ours are 2 & 4 and I can now see that holidays might actually be fun in a year or so ... ! Before that is tough. |
Anonymous
Can you call a babysitter and do a fun date night this weekend? Things often feel much, much better when you take a break from the kiddos. 
Good luck! |
Anonymous
I agree with this. We just got back from the beach with our 4 and 2 year olds and my DH and I bickered a lot. Our 2 year old didn't like the beach but got fussy inside, we were worried about making too much noise in the hotel, it rained one day, the kids were not sleeping very well...all those things caused stress and it got to all of us. I think it still was a good trip for the kids, but for us right now, it is not the ideal time to vacation. |
Anonymous
| There is no such thing as a vacation with the kids. That's a family trip. If the two of you went away together alone to some great locale and fought the entire time, that would be different. |
Anonymous
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We all need to remember to organize RELAXING trips, not over-scheduled ones.
We just went on a jam-packed road-trip that was particularly tense for DH, as he was with my parents, who stress him out at the best of times. There was a huge blow-up one day in which he behaved outrageously. I tried very hard to not let it ruin the rest of our trip, because otherwise what's the point of a vacation? But we have discussed it since returning home, and have hammered out other less-hurtful options he can implement if he feels stuck in a similar situation. I feel like I have to teach him how to react all the time... At least he's getting better, I suppose. |
Anonymous
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When I travel (single parent) with my kids, the shocking realization after 24 hours is that it's me and the kids, 24-7. No school, no camp, no neighbors. Terrible when they were toddlers, not as bad but still shocking with elementary school age.
If I had a husband, I'd probably take it out on him. |
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| Sounds like my "vacation" if you can even call it that! I'm going to need a vacation from my vacation. |
Anonymous
| vacation = parenting - conveniences of home |
Anonymous
Very true. I have also formulated it as follows: vacation = parenting + unpaid lifeguard job. |
Anonymous
| I declared a moratorium on vacations after our fist "real" vacation with a toddler. Smartest thing I ever did. If I wanted to take time off with her or without her, I did, but we skipped the travelling until she got old enough to be a bit more independent. We also now bring someone with us and that make an enormous difference. |