DH is a superficial ass
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Anonymous
Wth? 180 lbs IS the husband. |
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OP, here is another anecdote.
DH started working from home and stopped working out. There were stretches of time where he wore the same clothes, did not shower, brush his hair for 3 days at a time. Finally, I gently told him that I felt like he was not making an effort and that the message I got was that he did not care what I thought or whether I found him attractive. He realized he was in a rut, and he stepped it up again. No, he does not need to dress up to work at home, but basic hygiene and clean clothes were important. He also lost 30 lbs and looks amazing and I appreciate that he strives to maintain attractiveness to me. It does not mean that I love/loved him less when he was kind of a slob, but it did bug me. |
Anonymous
This. My DH gained 15 lbs during our 7 year marriage. He now has a double chin and looks unattractive or less attractive. Of course I still love him but I would prefer him at his wedding day weight. I stayed the same weight through 2 kids. I feel I'm chubby (though BMI is normal) and I prefer my looks when I used to be 10 lbs lighter during my 20s. Let's not kid ourselves that fat is attractive. Do you really want to hear the lie that you look gorgeous? I'd rather get an honest answer. |
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Anonymous
Yes. My husband gained about thirty and balded. I am still thin and look very attractive. I still love him but When we are intimate I fantasize about men with hot bodies. You can't let yourself go and demand that your partner still finds you hot. It is bait and switch. |
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There are people here saying fat women just don't give men erections...
That is sad... and obviously know nothing about chubby chasers. There are more men interested in "fat women" than skinny... believe me!! As for the OP - you can work out or tell him to f off and leave his a$$! Something tells me his "fat wallet" will be a lot more skinnier and loveable then... 
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Anonymous
If more men are chubby chasers and like fat women then explain how rich successful men always have thin women. I have never seen a rock star or athlete with an obese woman. |
Anonymous
| You have a dud, he probably is getting old and limp and blames your body for his limpness. Some men are idiots. |
Anonymous
Wait, is the DH a rock star or athlete???? |
Anonymous
| My DH has got a pooch, balding head, greying hair and hair in places it never used to be and he doesn't have the stamina that he did in bed, but I wouldn't trade him for anyone. Your DH is a jerk. |
Anonymous
Um, jackass, he is working out twice a day. Before and after work. When exactly is she supposed to work out? |
Anonymous
I have responded before. To this I would say, why are you focusing on him? A plausible explanation is so you don't have to focus on yourself. |
Anonymous
I feel you, OP. I wish I had unconditional love too. My weight has fluctuated over the years. Finally got to a healthy weight last year but gained some of it back. DH has made jokes and not be terribly supportive. I feel so alone at times. |
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We'll look on the bright side. It's so,thing you have same amount of agency over. You can work to lose the weight if you choose.
Better than all the male celebs you see dumping their wives because they got old. |
ZachF
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Yeah rigghhhtt. Keep telling yourself that. And no matter, her H isn't one of them and it doesn't sound like he's going to change into one of them because she gained 50. To be certain, there are chubby chasers and chasers of all kinds of types. You are delusional if you think there the majority of men like them fat. The decent shape, miserable husband of a fat wife is way too common a thing. |