My 63 year old neighbor
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I am 47 years old, straight woman. My neighbor is also a straight woman, 63. However, she says hurtful comments to me, implying that we are the same age. The other day she made a very hurtful comment about another neighbor woman beingredients very young, and I pointed out the woman was exactly my age. I have a thick skin but this is starting to get me annoyed. I don't look especially old for my age, and she looks 63. She wants to hang out but never offers to drive. I used to tell her about places I was going but she took that as an invitation for to drive. Back in November I noticed this trend so I stopped telling her where I was going.
She now seems a bit passively aggressively angry. We mostly started interactiNguyen because of our dogs. Our dogs see each other outside. |
Anonymous
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Why would you even look at the Fifty and Over posts if you aren't over 50? I'm thinking you are not facing reality whereas maybe your neighbor is?
I will say, though, that your phone mistakes or typos or whatever are pretty amusing. "beingredients" and "interactiNguyen" gave me a chuckle! |
Anonymous
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What does straight have to do with it?
Anyway, it's good you told her your age. She must think your much older than you really are, for some reason. Distance yourself. My mother started going grey at 16, and spent a lifetime being taken for Grandma. |
Anonymous
| "you're", not "your", sorry! |
Anonymous
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I think people lose track of feeling older, depending on their point of view and the age of the people they hang out with. Most adults don't limit their friendships to only people who are exactly their own age.
I was older when I had my kids, so a lot of the other parents I'm around a lot are about ten years younger than I am. I don't think about our age differences all the time, I just enjoy their company. When people are good fits in terms of personality, age doesn't really matter. |
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| Curious, too, why you make it a point to say that you're straight. If your neighbor was playing up to you, then it's understandable why you declare your gender preference...or do you have or have you had some underlying emotional/sexual feelings for that woman? Not being lewd or sarcastic. I find human behavior, fascinating. |
Anonymous
Say hi and that's it. You don't need to be friends with your neighbor 
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Anonymous
| She likes you and thinks of you as a friend and a peer. Sounds like you don't like her, so keep it cordial but distant. |
Anonymous
| How old are your dogs? Are they straight? |
Anonymous
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Why is it hurtful that she points out the neighbor is very young when the neighbor is your age? Isn't this actually a compliment -- she thinks of you as youthful? You are reading so much into this.
She doesn't like to drive. Big deal. Stop ratcheting every thing up. |
Anonymous
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Maybe you actually look 63, and you just can't see it.
Maybe your neighbor forgets that she looks 63 and because she identifies with you or feels like she is 46. Maybe your other neighbor actually looks really good for 46. Maybe she acts young. I've actually implied that other people look older than they are because I didn't like them. OK, I did this once. She kept going on about how people think she was younger than she was ... she was in her twenties or early 30s, and I suggested then that she was actually closer to my age (late 30s or early 40s at that point). I knew she wasn't quite my age, but it wasn't as though I thought she was early 20s, either, because she actually looked her age. |
Anonymous
I just spat out my drink, thanks PP |
Anonymous
| Maybe she is having memory issues and doesn't remember how old you are. |
Anonymous
| I have friends ranging from mid-forties to mid-sixties. I am in my mid-fifties. There are honestly times when I forget our age difference since we are socializing without our spouses and kids around. I would actually take it as a compliment to her feelings about you being closer than to this other woman. She might consider this other woman a threat somehow. |
Anonymous
| Spell correctly for Pete's sake. |