I would have loved feedback too. My DS was turned down from a school we thought would be a terrific fit. He is now at a different school and we are happy but I would still like to know. Perhaps it would help me understand and also see him more clearly - hard to evaulate your kids when they are your kids! |
I think it's a great idea. But would the admissions personnel think it was a bit aggressive for a parent of a "rejected" student to call to ask for constructive criticism? I would love to do so, but don't want to be viewed as over the top. |
I actually got a phone call with a rejection from one school my DS applied and I asked her and she told me she couldn't tell me. Oh well - fine now but I would have appreciated it. Maybe it would have been hard to hear- we had kids with better scores, or who we liked better on the interview or who had richer parents. I don't know -- maybe I would be sorry I asked.... |
Um thanks but I work in development (not at a school) and am very invested in my career and am the primary breadwinner compared to my DH. Geez., |
This is a nice, balanced perspective. The only difference I'd offer based on experience is that being an admission director is seldom a path to school head. (I say "seldom" because one of the most talented school heads I know did take that path — but of the scores of school heads I've known, I can think of only one other who did.) Admission officers are almost always extroverts with very strong social/emotional intelligence, passionate about their schools, good at making people feel at ease. I have known some people who have left admission work because of the factors the OP cites (it can be hard having to turn down most "clients"), but people make their peace with all kinds of downsides in all kinds of jobs. It's easy to dump on anybody whose path is different from our own, and hardly a challenge to assume low motives in others, but I've enjoyed talking with every admission officer I've ever met. Each has been smart person doing, in most cases, a job that's tough in one way or another. Peter _____________________ Disclaimer: The anonymity here makes me uncomfortable; it's easy to be uninformed, personal, or simply mean-spirited if people don't identify themselves. For that reason, I have an account so you know whose words you're reading. I have more than 20 years' experience as a teacher and administrator in independent schools, and I hope I can be helpful to some folks. If you don't like something I've said, you're in good company — there's a long line of past students ahead of you. ![]() |
Are you serious? Power trip, plain and simple. A lot of people like the ability to reject even if they'll tell you that's the hardest part of their job. Yeah right. |