ThatBetch wrote:You say you'd feel devastated if he did this to you, but you have no guarantee he won't do this (or worse). What if his paranoia gets the better of him and he disappears with your kids "to keep them safe from The Man"? Mental instability is a major red flag, and this level of disconnect with reality is a safety issue. Unless there is some legitimacy to his claims (unlikely, but this is DC and the Clintons apparently off people all the time ), he is tuned to a totally different frequency than you and most normal people. Who knows that he's hearing/thinking, or what that broadcast may tell him to do. You aren't obligated to stick around to find out, and you definitely shouldn't leave your kids exposed to that influence. Think about it: if your babysitter/nanny were saying these things, you'd fire him/her so fast they'd be halfway home before they realized what hit 'em!

You have a job to do: protect your kids. This isn't about hurting your husband; it's not about his feelings at all. It's about protecting your children. Do your job. Get somewhere safe, with your kids, and then do what you can to help your spouse get the help he needs.

I don't envy your position. My ex is off his meds/rocker at the moment, so I understand how heartbreaking this can be. But don't let your love for him make you lose focus. Your kids need someone sane and stable at the helm right now. Do what you need to do to protect them and yourself.

Anonymous wrote:

ThatBetch wrote:You say you'd feel devastated if he did this to you, but you have no guarantee he won't do this (or worse). What if his paranoia gets the better of him and he disappears with your kids "to keep them safe from The Man"? Mental instability is a major red flag, and this level of disconnect with reality is a safety issue. Unless there is some legitimacy to his claims (unlikely, but this is DC and the Clintons apparently off people all the time ), he is tuned to a totally different frequency than you and most normal people. Who knows that he's hearing/thinking, or what that broadcast may tell him to do. You aren't obligated to stick around to find out, and you definitely shouldn't leave your kids exposed to that influence. Think about it: if your babysitter/nanny were saying these things, you'd fire him/her so fast they'd be halfway home before they realized what hit 'em!

You have a job to do: protect your kids. This isn't about hurting your husband; it's not about his feelings at all. It's about protecting your children. Do your job. Get somewhere safe, with your kids, and then do what you can to help your spouse get the help he needs.

I don't envy your position. My ex is off his meds/rocker at the moment, so I understand how heartbreaking this can be. But don't let your love for him make you lose focus. Your kids need someone sane and stable at the helm right now. Do what you need to do to protect them and yourself.

Thank you PP! This is pretty much the message I get from everybody. But what about if I take the kids tomorrow and then he shows up at their school the next day and takes them? How can I protect them from possible drama and upheaval?

Anonymous wrote:I thought, unless it was clearly documented and provable that this person is off their medication and a threat, that mental illness does not disqualify you from custody?

And has he been diagnosed with a mental illness? Or just acting paranoid? What are you going to present to the court to substantiate that?

Anonymous wrote:He's safeish now, but this will throw him over the edge. Sounds like a classic schizophrenic. Good luck getting him to even see a doctor. It's highly likely that doctors are part of the grand conspiracy.

It is irresponsible at best for anyone - even a psychiatrist - to throw around diagnoses based on the very few details OP offered. Actually, schizophrenia in the very vast majority of cases manifests itself between the ages of 18-24, so unless OP's husband is extremely young, he probably does not suffer from schizophrenia. Many mental illnesses can cause a person to exhibit paranoid behavior.