If you are separated but not sure about divore vs reconciliation
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Anonymous
| Is it OK to date? Recently separated although not sure if it is permanent. Would dating (and I do mean physical stuff here) be a deal breaker for one day getting the marriage back on track? It wouldn't on my end, in fact I think it would be good for both of us, but not sure if I am in the norm here. Not sure yet what I want for the future. I'm female if that matters. |
Anonymous
| Dating and getting physical with a man who is not your husband would be a deal breaker for me. I was in a similar situation. Male here. Just get divorced. |
Anonymous
| You are asking the wrong person. What does your spouse say? |
Anonymous
X 2 |
Anonymous
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If you're female it's done - move on. You won't want to back. For gods sake don't give your ex partner any ideas about possible reconciliation - that's just being mean and a mind fuck. |
Anonymous
| Isn't half the reason for seperation so you can sleep with others? If not,what's the point? Go for it. |
ThatBetch
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x3 This is a convo you have with your spouse (who is still legally your spouse) BEFORE you get with other people. |
Anonymous
X4. |
Anonymous
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I typed out a post similar to this this morning and then I deleted before posting.
DH says he needs time to figure things out. I'm tired of waiting. We've been separated for a year and he keeps going back and forth. I love him and we have kids but I'm not waiting around forever. I don't even feel like I owe him a conversation about dating. I guess the idea of possible reconciliation is what stops me. To me once I start dating and especially once I have sex with someone else, it's over for good. Once I break my vows, there is no longer a marriage to repair or work on. |
Anonymous
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If you think reconciliation is possible, TALK TO HIM! See where he's at. If your conversation results in agreeing to divorce, you're free to do what you wish.
I am separated only because of the waiting period. I knew the day of that reconciliation was impossible, so if I could have divorceI the next day, I would have. |
Anonymous
| When I asked for a trial separation, I knew I wouldn't date because that was the sign I was already gone. When we actually did separate (my initiation), I was too absorbed with my kids to even think about dating. |
Anonymous
Why are you so big on dating? Do you really need the attention, and you will get it, that much? |
Anonymous
| Someone told me: the guy will dilly dally until he is sure he has a sure thing elsewhere. So you have to do what is best for you, b/c his signs are deliberately mixed. Hanging on by him is just keeping options open. |
Anonymous
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I found out my exwife was talking to another guy. They hadn't had sex yet, but I found out about them right before their weekend away.
We separated. She asked me to give her one year to do whatever she wanted so that she could decide if I was what she really wanted. Her question was enough for me to decide to get divorced. She thought it would be any guy's dream to have a free pass. I guess it just depends on the person. I say talk to him about it but just know that the question could lead to other issues. |