If he might be cheating, says he wants out, is it worth trying to salvage?
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Anonymous
| DH seems to be going through a midlife crisis like some others have described. Is admittedly confused, 2 weeks ago wants to be close, last week decided he wants out. Says he doesn't want to struggle any more with our relationship. I suspect he's started connected with other women. When he's not being nuts, we have some good times and connection, and I'd rather not be divorced and on my own. Is it worth fighting to salvage our marriage or do things not really change that radically when a man (or woman for that matter) has gone this far? |
Anonymous
| Do you have kids? |
Anonymous
we each have kids from before and we've worked to make them a family; they view each other as siblings for the most part, but we don't have kids together. |
Anonymous
| So he's done this before with a previous wife? |
Anonymous
No, was different situation. She left and circumstances were different. |
Anonymous
| Let him go peacefully |
Anonymous
| Let him go. No one needs to live with that kind of insecurity hanging over their relationship. |
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As a man I agree with PP.
PS: I don't have anything to add, I just wanted to say that I agree with peepee... |
Anonymous
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Call his bluff.
Tell him you want out and that you're seeing someone and see what he says. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
But then even if he comes back, do I accept him back? |
Anonymous
Depends. Without having kids with him, I gotta say, I probably wouldn't. |
Anonymous
Are you sure? |
Anonymous
| If he has concrete suggestions as to what is wrong and how to fix, then yes, give it a shot to salvage. If its generic and he isn't interest in trying, not much you can do. |
ThatBetch
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What is with this line of thinking? There've been a lot of these posts lately...
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? If someone wants to leave, let them go. Help them pack! Think highly enough of yourself to expect better. Being alone is better than being with someone who doesn't want to be there. As for having kids, yes, that does complicate the logistics, but it doesn't change the point. Teach your kids to have enough self-worth that they don't settle for "partners" who are only halfway in the partnership (at best). DTMFA |