3 year old doesn't want potty anymore...
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| our three year old has recently decided she doesn't want to use the potty anymore (we've been making progress with potty bootcamp weekends and potty timers). We've tried incentives, taking things away, etc. She cries for a diaper when I refuse to put one on her and pees in underwear (which results in a major breakdown). She is speech delayed and a new big sister so I'm trying to be patient, but she is starting preschool in August and we have to have this done! We've been trying to potty train for the last six months and she hasn't been very receptive (and has recently regressed to more baby-like actions...which is understandable with the new addition). Any advice on fully day training under these circumstances? |
Anonymous
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Give her a break for two weeks.
Then you just put her in underwear--not just weekends--every day. Don't use diapers unless it's for bedtime. Take her to the potty upon waking, b/f eating, b/f leaving the house. Praise her for sitting; sticker or small prize for actually successfully peeing or pooping. Take extra pairs of clothes with you wherever you go. |
Anonymous
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Stop the weekends (multiple weekends?!) and go back to diapers for a few weeks. Pull them out again in a few weeks and tell her this is it. No more diapers. Being a new big sister is a big ordeal on top of not being able to communicate with you well. My 100% PTed 3.5 YO had a regression weekend even when baby brother was born. And he had been trained for nearly a year.
It's becoming a power struggle. One thing I've learned is that you should never get into a power struggle with a 3 YO. Even if you win, you lose. |
Anonymous
Sorry, that should be pull out the underwear, put away the diapers, but after a few weeks. You all need a break. She might even decide she wants to do it herself after poopy diapers. |
Anonymous
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If she has language delays, that may be part of the issue. My language delayed kid really struggled. He had no issue going when we put him on but couldn't tell us or go on his own. We didn't get it done till right before 4 when we forced it. We let him have a few accidents and put him on the potty every hour for months. Eventually he got it.
I would keep pull ups and put her on every hour and not make a big deal over it if she goes or not for now. |
Anonymous
| You are the whole key to the potty training. You have to project confidence. Your post is full of self-doubt, doubts about your child and excuses. Turn things around with a pep talk for everyone involved, especially yourself. She is 3! She can use a toilet! You know she can and you are super confident that she can do a lot of things! Teaching kids to do a lot of things just involves unflinching commitment and confidence in them. This works for potty training, swimming, bike riding, you name it. You can do it! Stop leading with her. Tell her when it's time to go and be nice about it. Keep boosting her self confidence instead of begging and bribing. It will work. |
Anonymous
| *pleading not leading. No pleading. |
Anonymous
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Another vote for taking some time off - for both of you! Maybe through the 4th of July?
I'm sure you're doing this already, but lots of language about being a big sister, growing up, doing things the baby can't do might help. Make every success a huge deal when you go back to it. Make it a special thing that only a big girl gets to do. Stickers. Praise. High fives. Ask constantly if she has to go. When an accident happens, stay calm and point out accidents happen. Is there a nonverbal form of communication that might help? Signing? Just throwing it out there... |
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| Your right your toddler is adjusting to new baby! My oldest didn't even say a word till he was over the age of 3, but he was completely potty trained at 2. Your LO is probably just adjusting to new baby. Here is a great article I read awhile ago on this very subject http://bit.ly/28N0SB9. I hope it helps. |
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Truth |